Too often, when there are problems in life, we go to great lengths to avoid them as much as possible. Many family breakups surprise everyone in the family, but it’s not something that happens overnight. The dissension in the family has been growing over a period of time and, like a snowball rolling downhill, it has been getting bigger and bigger.

There is no member of the family who is not affected in some way by a family that is falling apart. Then what do you do? Do you just accept it as inevitable? After all, there are a multitude of family breakups every year. Do you keep your fingers crossed and hope that everything will pass and at least the family will tolerate each other? This is not what a family should be, and until at least one member of the family faces the problem that there is a problem here, things are going to get a lot worse. In most cases, it will be one of the parents who finally brings the problem to a head.

There may be teenagers in the family at home, and sometimes their wisdom surpasses that of the parents, simply because they can see things from a different perspective. However, as adults, we have been brainwashed into thinking that children are simply too inexperienced and too young to be able to contribute anything of value to the unstable family atmosphere. Instead, we do our best to shield you from what is going on, and yet your observations have probably given you a better idea of ​​what the real situation is.

The question is how to bring the family back together? Now we could pose the question: is the family unit salvageable? However, this is a negative question, and the first approach to a healing family should be a positive one.

As said, it all starts with a family member making the first move to say, “Hey, there’s trouble in the family.” The next step is to say that we are a family, this is a family problem and we must solve it as a family. Once you adopt this attitude, you will have laid the foundation to begin family healing. Remember though, as with any injury, there will be scarring. The scars of a damaged family must be accepted and treated.

As you can probably see, there is no quick answer to the solution to bringing the family back together, but there is a long-term answer. This begs the next question, which boils down to whether your family is important enough to put the time and effort into making it better again.