There is no other place more frustrating than an intimate relationship in which it is always you who sacrifices your feelings, your emotions, your desires, your needs, your desires to be in favor of the other person. You keep understanding them, while you keep putting your feelings on the back burner. After a while, it will be exhausting to always be the one to attend to someone else’s feelings. Do you feel like you’re the one who constantly gives and gives and gives and gives a little more to the other person without receiving anything in kind?
While it is true that each person shares in their own way, however, a good indicator of how much each person is giving is if you feel exhausted and feel like you have nothing more to give. You feel drained, you feel taken advantage of, and you feel like you don’t matter, that you’re just there to serve the other person.
Most likely, you have forgotten your own existence in this whole thing. That doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve done something wrong yourself. Maybe you’ve always been the understanding one. You continue to understand what the other person is going through, so you selflessly became that person, thus setting yourself aside. You probably didn’t want to feel like you were being selfish by thinking only of yourself. However, while you were selflessly being for that person, that person was selfishly being only for themselves and not for you at all.
It’s time to regain your sanity, self-respect, self-love, and pride. If you find that you are always taking care of someone else while they only take care of themselves, then it is time to get away from that person and start taking care of yourself. While there is nothing wrong with being for others, we must always remember that our emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual selves are just as important, so we must also pay attention to ourselves, if not more.
A selfless person will always be attracted to a selfish person. Why? Because they are the same. How come you can ask? Well, a person who is being selfless is actually being selfish. They are being selfish with themselves just as the selfish person is only being selfish with themselves. Please don’t get confused. If we haven’t learned how to be for ourselves, how to take care of our emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual well-being first, then we will find ourselves feeling drained and resentful of those for whom we are being self-sufficient. less.
In order to truly be selflessly for others, we need to strengthen ourselves emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually. Only when we are fully charged within ourselves can we truly serve others unconditionally. We can then step away from a position of inner strength and power to be for others. That doesn’t mean that no one should take advantage of your selfless nature. Your personal and intimate relationships must be a place of deep intimacy, deep sharing, open communication, without emotional manipulation, deep and sincere love. If your intimate relationship is anything less, then that is not a safe or healthy place for you.
Truth be told, those you are always catering to have every right to be selfish. You’re already there doing everything for them, taking care of them, so it’s no wonder they’re being selfish. They love being served and who would turn down being served. It is said that you cannot change a person’s actions, but you can change his reaction.
Personally, I prefer another interpretation of that statement: “You can’t change a person’s actions, but you sure can change your actions.” If you find yourself feeling drained, resentful, angry at how much of yourself you are sacrificing for that other person, you will find that you are the one who constantly understands them, waits for them as they live their lives. , ignoring you, then it’s time to get your life back. It’s time to start serving you.
It’s time to stop sacrificing your well-being, your life and your future for someone who only cares about himself. If you find that you are always the one serving other people and they are taking advantage of you, then stop. Yes, yes, I know you can’t just stop right away. However, once you become aware of what you have been doing, you can now take steps to get away from the person who is being selfish and start focusing on your own well-being.
You have the right to change anything in your life that doesn’t make you happy. If you always feel drained, then it’s time to reposition the compass of your life so that it starts turning in the direction of your North Star. Maybe it’s time to divert your attention from that person and start creating your exciting life. It’s time to move your life forward. You as much as anyone else deserve a happy and beautiful life. It’s your birthright, so don’t sell your birthright.
If you are constantly catering to another person, you are always giving, giving, giving, and they are taking, taking, taking, you are selling your birthright. Not only is that person not for you in the short or long term, but you are giving someone else your happiness, your life while leaving yourself with nothing. Take back your happiness, take back your life. When the time is right, in Divine timing, The Universe will send someone into your life who will hold your hand and say, “Let’s Walk Together.” ~Here are the starlit beach walks!~ 🙂
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