After dating a few different men, you may think that finding love is like finding a needle in a haystack. You would have to be the luckiest woman in the world to find the perfect man.
I hear stories of women who meet a man, know he’s the one, and are now happily married. The problem with these stories is that you don’t hear about the dozens of dates she went on before you met him.
Sure there are people who meet the perfect man on their first date, but most would agree that they are the exception, not the norm.
While we know these are fairy tale notions, it’s fun to think that it can happen. But back in the real world, you have to realize that you never know where you will find love.
It can be someone you date. Someone at your new job. Your new neighbor. Look for love everywhere. But date for fun. If you look for love on a date, you will end up disappointed. While it’s possible to connect with a man right away, for most of us it takes time.
No man wants to have a date that looks more like a prenuptial interview. He is not looking for a wife for your first date. Nothing scares a man more on first dates than a woman with marriage on her mind. If you remember this, you can take the pressure off and maybe you can have some fun. When you have fun, you give your date a chance to see the real you. It also allows him to be himself.
Stop looking for love. I’m not saying that when you stop looking it will fall into your lap. But, when you stop worrying about it, dating becomes easier. Before you go out on a date, decide that you are going to have fun. Go out because you like him and want to spend time with him.
Enjoy your time together without expectations. Relax and don’t feel pressured into a love connection. Take the time to get to know him, chances are you’ll have more fun and so will he.
When you’re comfortable dating, you tend to go out more. Men will be more open to dating you if they don’t feel the pressure of “love” on the first date. So remember to start dating for fun as you never know where you will find love.