Don’t you hate it when your best friend goes to the Chinese grocery store two blocks away or to the basement apartment laundromat and a half hour later arrives with three phone numbers and a cute guy dinner date when everything gets signs of “not interested” even from guys you’d normally consider “A” losers.

What about those women who never seem to stay single for more than three months? You know the ones who slip from the arms of a rich guy into the life of another beautiful humanitarian with a heart of gold? What do some women have about men that the rest of us don’t? What is your secret? What do they do that makes guys want to be with them?

Their secret is that they let guys know that they are interested and available. While the rest of us are “playing hard to get” or throwing ourselves at anyone who looks our way, these “hot” women know exactly what they want and aren’t afraid to let you know.

But how could you ask. How do I let a guy know I’m interested in him without looking silly if he’s not interested in you? Most of us get discouraged when we see someone we’re interested in because we assume he’s probably looking for someone young and gorgeous. But having worked with many singles over the years, I’ve almost come to the conclusion that “the more handsome you are, the more work you have to do.” No one will approach you unless you make it incredibly obvious that you want them to.

Apparently there are ways to say “I’m available, just tell me the place and time” without seeming desperate. YES!!! There are ways to stand out from the crowd and still retain your sense of “dignity.” It’s called flirting.

Research has shown that there are certain qualities that make a woman stand out even without the high heels or black mini dress. Guys, we’re told, have biological “sex” radars and can literally sense the “sexiest” woman as soon as she steps foot in a room.

Amazing, right? While we women are getting to know him (his zodiac sign, his favorite color, his deepest fear, his mother’s maiden name and all that sort of thing), men’s radars are on the air picking up signs of some hot. mom who just entered the room.

So if you want to get it, and keep it, you apparently have to learn to speak its language. I have listed here the top five qualities that were offered by men and confirmed by some “sexy” women. I’ve used them all quite a few times and got a 150% OVER-KILL. Even if they don’t land you the man of your dreams, right away, they’ll make your life a little more fabulous and make dating truly a jungle game.

Apparently, a woman with the sex appeal that oozes from every pore of her skin has these qualities:

1. It looks like he is having fun. Being predictable and boring is a cardinal sin when it comes to dating and all relationships. Whether we like it or not, people are very attracted to other people who seem to be enjoying themselves. A woman who is not afraid of life drags everyone with her. Men look at her and want a piece of “HER”.

Develop an upbeat and positive attitude and get in touch with and be aware of your own sexual energy. Beyond that, develop a fun, childlike quality about yourself and share a bit of that with the rest of the world. A little “playful teasing” is a great way to spark interest. When it’s obvious you should start acting like a sticky bug, just lay back like you have all the time in the world. This can take seduction to the next level…

2. She is confident but not self-absorbed to the extent that no one and nothing else matters but her. She is aware of how she looks herself, but she is not obsessed with how she looks. In other words, she is “hot”.

You don’t have to be classically beautiful by societal standards to be inexplicably sexy. It all has to do with the perception you have of yourself and all the ways you show yourself. Loving yourself in a healthy way is actually an important factor in convincing others that you are a hot mom.

3. Makes someone feel like they’re the only person in the room that matters. She looks into his eyes, really listens, calls him by her name and concentrates on what she says.

What else can I say, the eyes have it. Let your eyes reach the depths of his soul and move him like never before. Use your fingers to draw attention to his eyes and keep his gaze focused on you, and you alone. When the exchange takes place in crowded conditions, simply touch your nose or gently rub your cheek while pointing a finger at either eye. To be able to look down on it.

4. Play a lot. When someone touches us, we like it even more. If you’re stingy with your affection, others assume you’re cold, hard to get to know, and uptight.

If he’s already familiar with the “mirror” technique, add the “tactile anchoring” technique and he’ll never realize why three weeks later he’s rubbing his hands against his sleeves and still smelling her perfume even when he’s wearing it. a different shirt than the one he wore that “full of destiny” night. This touching extends to touching yourself. Touch yourself to draw attention to your most flattering features, and when combined with eye contact, Houston, we’ve got a problem!!!

5. He knows his body and is aware of it. I’m talking about talking about the body. If you’ve been getting looks but no action, you probably need to fine-tune your body language; the way you walk, what you wear and the vibrations and waves you send out.

You’ve got Dolly Parton’s cleavage, try the “Oh my gosh, you’re hilarious” hand over breasts every time she says something funny. And laugh deeply so that those “babies” hiccup like an earthquake shaking the Himalayas. And if you’re a bootilcious Beyonce, going to the ladies’ room as often as you can is actually a good thing. Seductively twirling with a swing and sweeping look that ends on your flat side and then rolling and bouncing what your mom gave you can wreak bloody havoc on even the most serene of you.

Flirting really is quite easy if you think of it as soft marketing and all it takes is the right attitude and a willingness to take some risks and make things happen. The next time you go out and feel the need to literally flirt with him, be impulsive and try something unpredictable and wildly interesting.

And hey, tell me how it goes…