The very thought of anal play for some can elicit an instant ‘ick’ or ‘ewh’ reaction, especially if you are one of the many women whose first encounter with analingus has been via a rogue finger pricking your butt without prior consent. However, done correctly between two loving partners, analingus can give you a multitude of wonderful sensations and is also a great introduction to rectal sex.
If you haven’t heard of anal play described as analingus, you may be more familiar with the terms “sexual rimming,” “throwing the salad,” or “ass licking.” Such crude terms are enough to send any nice lady running with her tail tightly held between her legs, but if you’re curious and open to new adventures, analingus with the right loving partner can go from being a nasty shock to a very warm and welcome. surprise.
Quite simply, your anus is lined with many delicate nerve endings and when these are stimulated by the tickle of a tantalizing tongue, the result can be quite heavenly. The trick to enjoying these new sensations is to love your butt, overcome any inhibitions and embrace the rimming as an incredibly sensual and intimate act between lovers. It is the total acceptance of the bodies of others without any part off limits that can strengthen the bonds and increase the feeling of eroticism.
Speaking of eroticism, another reason anal play feels so deeply sensual is because the pelvic floor muscles lie just below the surface of the anal area. If you squeeze them now you will notice how your anus contracts slightly, and it is these muscles that are compressed during orgasm. Anal play, which includes the insertion of sex toys, awakens the pelvic floor muscles and intensifies all erotic sensations.
Is Analingus safe?
Like all forms of sex, you need to take precautions when experimenting with anal play. First things first, you must clean yourself before the sexual rimming. Make sure you both go to the bathroom beforehand and then shower together. Use warm soapy water to thoroughly clean your anus and you can even insert a lightly soapy finger inside.
It is important to note that despite all your best efforts to clean, there may be times when stool sticks to the anus and the skin around it. Although fecal matter is stored in the colon and only passes through the rectum when it is ready to be completely released from the body, debris can sometimes remain in the rectum, anal canal, and anus after defecation, although it can be eliminated by washed. .
Don’t worry too much about this possibility and don’t get carried away with cleanliness. In fact, it can damage or tear the soft tissues of the skin of the anus if you apply too much force. Instead, use baby wipes, which are great for gentle cleansing of all skin folds and you also get the added benefit of their pleasant scent.
If this still puts you off completely, you might consider using a Dental Dam, which is like a condom for your butt. It acts as a latex barrier between the anus and the mouth and, although it may not look very sexy, it will protect you from bacteria and viruses such as HPV, HIV and hepatitis.
Talk to your partner beforehand, decide if you are going to be the giver or the receiver. Wearing a dental dam could be the piece of confidence you need to get on your way to rimming.
How to give anal rimming
When learning how to rimming or any form of rectal sex, it doesn’t have to be something you don’t want it to be. The simple caress, caress, and gentle pressure of a finger around and at the opening of the anus is sufficient pain reliever for some people. Or is it the gentle flicker of a delicate tongue in the nerve-filled area of your anus that is simply a blessing to others. Anal play definitely doesn’t have to be penetration. However, if you want to move on to anal sex, then analingus is essential to prepare your body for penetration.
Like other forms of oral sex, take your time, relax, and gradually seduce your partner by massaging the inner thighs or the back of the legs. Gradually start licking these areas and use your nails to rub the outside of the butt. Blow into the anus and then apply gentle pressure by rubbing around the edge.
The greatest satisfaction comes from the tender kisses, loving licks, and variations of the tongue movements circling around and turning on all those wonderfully delicate nerve endings.
If your partner allows it, you can use both hands to open the anus and then point your tongue and insert it in and out. If you use your finger, be careful with your nails, as the rough edges can damage the delicate skin.
Analplay positions
If you’re totally new to anal play, positions like doggy style or squatting may seem too vulnerable and too exposed to begin with. If you’re on the receiving end, you could start with regular cunnilingus, then as your body becomes more aroused it can be a natural progression for your partner to slowly lick further south. Just keep in mind that to prevent any bacterial infection, once you hit your butt with your tongue, it can’t go back into your vagina.
Sideways 69 is a good position to start. The regular 69 can be a bit fiddly to get into a comfortable and accessible position that both of you can enjoy, but if you both turn on your side, you can massage, lick, and suck to your mutual delight.
When you are ready and completely comfortable with the exposure, you should try one of the following positions:
Puppy
Puppy is where the recipient assumes the kneeling puppy position and the giver kneels behind and gently extends each control to reveal the anus.
Standing inclined
This is self explanatory, however you can modify it by having the receiver lean over the edge of a bed or chair to maximize comfort for both parties.
Legs up
In this position, the receiver lies on his back with his legs spread and bent, his knees close to his chest. The donor lies face down in front. This position can be made more comfortable with the recipient lying on the edge of the bed and the donor leaning forward.