Most people are familiar with Gary D. Chapman’s 5 love languages:

Words of affirmation

Acts of service

Receive gifts

Quality time

Physical touch

If not, I strongly suggest that you take the time to learn and understand them, as they are a great tool for understanding yourself and your relationships.

But what if there was a sixth language of love? Could humor be the sixth language of love?

Fact: 95% of my matchmaking clients when asked to write a list of the qualities they look for in a partner include a good sense of humor. Why is this? Why is a good sense of humor so important to 95% of my matchmaking clients?

Being on the receiving end of a good sense of humor ensures that we always have someone who will educate us, make us laugh, forget about the day’s troubles, and feel good. The point is that it makes us feel loved.

Personal experiences: I remember that when I was a child, my grandfather always tried to make us laugh, it was like it was his job and most of the time he succeeded despite the generation gap. Also, my 82-year-old father-in-law is the same. Not a minute goes by in our time together without me having a smile on my face and a deep laugh most of the time! Even my 14 year old son has the ability to make people laugh and can have a good sense of humor.

In my single days, I found out looking back that most of the men I had dated used to have a great sense of humor. Most importantly, my husband has the most extreme sense of humor and makes me laugh every day. I’d say it would probably be your most dominant way of expressing love over the original 5 love languages. Making me laugh and smile makes him feel good and that leads me to assume that this is his way of expressing love not to mention that it makes me feel loved.

Having said all that, I post the question to my colleagues, friends, and clients: Is humor the sixth language of unwritten love? Is humor a way that some show their love? Does receiving humor make you feel loved? Or is it just an anomaly in my 20+ years of professional experience and 48 years of life experience? Hmmmh … thoughts?