If you have just gone through a breakup, you will experience a variety of emotions. I know how you feel, because I’ve been there more than once myself. I felt confused, alone, and angry all at once the first time it happened. All I wanted was to have my ex back in my arms, sure that we were happy and together again.

However, my emotions got the best of me and I just didn’t know how to get what I really wanted. It seemed out of reach, because I was afraid that if I asked him, he would say no.

The first step to get your ex back

This is a perfectly valid fear, for good reason. If you try to ‘persuade’ her ex to take him back, you may fall flat on your face and leave little chance of getting back together.

That said, what you need to do right now is to accept break. It may seem counterintuitive, but it works. When I discovered this, I was a bit skeptical. But when I put it to use, I could see why it was necessary.

I was a bit desperate at the time: I was calling my ex every day to try and get in touch with her. Obviously, I just seemed needy, and she would never accept me like that. Of course, I couldn’t see this for myself.

The reason you should agree to the breakup is to give your ex some space. They may be surprised that you’re handling it so well and begin to doubt if they’ve made the right decision. Because it is very important that you let your ex come to their own conclusion about your relationship. They can’t be persuaded, but you can do whatever you can to try and lure them back.

get closer to your ex

So you’ve given him or her some time to reflect. Now what? The important thing here is to meet friends. You should not pressure your ex at this time. Get together to catch up, but make sure it’s brief. Leave your ex wanting more every time you see him.

Hopefully, they’ll make the first move, but if not, gauge their reaction. When things are going well, don’t be afraid to ask the question. If you get a hesitant or negative response, try not to get angry, just be casual about it. Again, don’t push your ex here. At this stage, they will know your intent, but still feel like you are not forcing them to do anything.