The clitoris is the source of amazing pleasure for women, but being able to reliably stimulate it to orgasm can be a frustrating and exasperating experience for many beginners. Every woman’s clitoris is different and what worked for one woman may not work for another. She can use all kinds of pressures, speeds, movements, rhythms, caresses, directions of movement and even the part of the body that she uses can vary, be it the penis, the fingers or the tongue that she uses.
Also, many sex manuals can be incredibly vague in their instructions on how to stimulate a woman to clitoral orgasm using your fingers. Many women report that “rubbing in a circular motion” is good, but when it’s time to do it and you have a real woman in front of you in bed with her legs spread wide, your brain is suddenly assailed by a myriad of possibilities. : speed – fast or slow? Movement: to the right or to the left? Pressure: light, heavy, medium? How wide of a circle should I make? Do I cover the clitoral hood in this or are we strictly focusing on the glans? When I get to the bottom of the glans, is it okay to brush the frenulum where the inner lips meet? Will doing this break the rhythm? Is it even possible to create a rhythm when moving in a circle anyway? Is this just for fingers or will it work with my tongue too? Can I use saliva to wet my fingers or is lubricant necessary?
Many experts say that these questions can be answered simply with practice. Every woman is different, so giving precise answers is difficult. Also, many women change their preferences on a daily basis, preferring one pressure one day and another speed the next. You need to find your rhythm again every time anyway. So what additional guidance can be given?
Well, there is one particular method that has proven to be enormously effective and that is the Welcome Method. What I really like about this method is how super precise the instructions are. Let’s go for it!
1. The woman lies on her back in bed, with her legs spread.
2. The man sits on his left side.
3. The man puts his left arm under his left leg so that his hand supports his left buttock.
4. Push the thumb of your left hand into the perineum (which is between the fork at the bottom of the vulva and the anus). This makes her feel comfortable and prevents her clitoris from moving too much.
5. He puts a lot of lube on her clit.
6. Bring your right hand over the top and place the tip of your right index finger directly on the glans clitoris.
7. Stroke the clitoral glans from dead center to one o’clock position (11 o’clock from her point of view) and vice versa; this is a hit.
8. This punch should be done at a speed of 1-2 punches per second.
9. The maximum movement from dead center to the one o’clock position should be one-half inch.
10. This will put her in a state of orgasmic ecstasy for as long as she wants, but she won’t climax. When she wants you to let her climax, she talks dirty and dominates and tell her to go to the limit.
I think any sex manual should aspire to describe sexual techniques to this standard and level of detail. This would minimize the amount of wasted time men spend on trial and error approaches to implement more valuable instructions! I hope this information helps you give your woman the clitoral orgasm she’s always wanted!