If you’re a woman and don’t understand how men think or what it’s all about, then you can be forgiven for thinking that all men want a good girl to love and eventually settle down with.
Although love is just as important to men as it is to women (and sometimes more), there is something else he wants more intensely and deeply than love. What is? SEX, maybe? A good but wrong answer!
The thing that men want more than love, the one thing they want more than anything else, so much so that, in fact, most men don’t know it and can’t even express it as a need, is RESPECT.
You need to be RESPECTED by others before you can even think about love. However, he doesn’t know. He is almost totally unaware of his great need for respect because no one ever talks about it and there is no clue in his life (most of the time) that can inform him of it.
However, most men have learned from competing against other boys at school when they were young that being able to achieve goals and gain skills in something, whether it be a sport, a difficult or dangerous activity, or being braver or more resourceful than others, grants them the respect of others. Only when he is able to feel competent to the point that others respect him can he find time to think about other things like love.
As a woman, you need to understand that treating your man with disrespect will never win his heart. So, whether it is a light joke about something he is not good at or a criticism from a wife of her husband of many years, if the woman is not careful, the man will feel that he is not respected and this will affect the ability to the. believe in his love. This will happen if his tone of voice indicates disrespect, as if she no longer believes that he is capable of taking care of himself without her help.
Of course, that doesn’t mean you have to treat him with kid gloves or never criticize him if he makes mistakes. After all, he’s supposed to be a bit tougher than a girl, able to take the rough with the smooth and stand up to criticism. I should take it like a man! However, avoid at all costs the type of behavior where your body language or tone of voice says “you are incompetent.”
Pay attention to your tone of voice and the words you choose and give him the respect he needs. If you do that, he will feel that your love for him is genuine and he will open up to you. He will feel that you accept him as a man and from his point of view, that means that you can accept love from him. So he will give it to you!
So if you want to make sure that you and your man value each other in the way you talk and behave, make sure you respect him first. He will respect you in return and that is the best foundation for a loving relationship together!